Getting a man past being bothered by the strength of his erection and how long he can last, and he’s well on his way to enjoying, understanding and developing the full body arousal he can enjoy during a tantric massage.  Consequently his erections will become stronger and he will last longer… because they’re just happening, rather than him trying to make them happen.

Difficult post this as I really don’t want to give away my methods, which almost annoyingly I’ve discovered most myself over the years, rather than easily finding out about them in books or on a course.  How many articles have you read that may have given you the answer to a problem you were having, only for the article to explain or puff up the crux of the issue in such a way you missed identifying it, thus missed helping yourself.

I find, especially about sexual matters, most guys are refreshingly blunt and open about their problems, giving us the greatest change of a successful session.  But there’s always the ones who are telling me there’s no control issues, or they chill down easily, and I can see by their very nature, or manner of talking and listening, that that’s not the case.  In itself this is no problem, I work as I find as well, not just listening to what I hear, but when additional thoughts of  ‘How hard is it ?’, ‘Come on get hard’ are worried about during a tantric massage, how are you enjoying the tantric massage ?  You’re not giving yourself the opportunity to enjoy full body arousal when you’re nicking all the enjoyment worrying about your groin ?

Fact of the matter is, tantric massage is not about erections and ejaculations.  Oh they happen, but not the same as when you keep everything groin focused.   I’m sure I say this in several posts, and I know I do when clients visit, but tantric massage and the arousal a man experiences during one, is more akin to the full body arousal a woman more naturally enjoys.

Logic time, the aroused blood is pumping all around your body, it can’t all be in that one little place, until the pressure really mounts up, and that’s when you really know you’ve had an orgasm.  And most say that at orgasm it was like their dick wasn’t even important, let alone did they know how hard it was.   And to those fellows with any form of erectile dysfunction this can only be a blessing to discover.  Like I said before, tantric is not all about erections and ejaculations, it’s bigger than that, and the experience makes a fellow better understand why women get more satisfaction from their orgasms, they don’t just count how many ejaculations ;o)

On top of actual body reactions to tantric massage, I can share with erectile dysfunction clients my very best advice on gaining their most natural erection, using techniques rather than pills.  If a client gets morning erections but none when trying for sex or self pleasuring, I can help for sure.  If a client gets minimal erections I can show him how to get more full body arousal, which is almost over ready to compensate for the lack of an erection (you know it won’t happen so are more willing to get out of your groin when the other sensations start).

Got a cold willy ?  I spotted this with a few clients who had erectile dysfunction.  I don’t of course mean cold as in the rest of you is cold too, but more seriously the nerve endings aren’t pumping blood thru the whole of the penis, thus the area really does feel cold to the touch.  You wouldn’t always be aware of this if you don’t touch your willy enough.  I’ve since checked up about cold willies and it is something you should see your doctor about, then erection problems should be checked by a doctor anyway.  Please check as the last client I mentioned this too didn’t know he had this symptom on top of erectile dysfunction.

However if your willy is cold due to the fact it’s breeezing outside, you’ll be pleased to hear my massage room is still nice and warm, and so are my hands.  I’m home and away quite a bit over the next few months, all my availability is on my website – Home in Brighton but I’m also visiting Edinburgh, Aberdeen, Manchester and London.

I look forward to meeting all those interested in my massage, thanks.

Lilly